For people who love to check steps off a list, you can print the Game Plan from here.

Sources & Influences -

Anand, K. J., Hickey, P. R. Pain and its effects in the human neonate and fetus. New England Journal of Medicine. 1987 Nov 19;317(21):1321-9. doi: 10.1056/NEJM198711193172105.

Bandy, T., Andrews, K., & Moore, K. A. (2012). Disadvantaged families and child outcomes: The importance of emotional support for mothers. Bethesda, MD: Child Trends. Retrieved from https://www.childtrends.org/?publications=disadvantaged-families-and-child-outcomes-the- importance-of-emotional-support-for-mothers.

Bohay, M., Blakely, D. P., Tamplin, A. K, & Radvansky, G. A. (2011). Note Taking, Review, Memory, and Comprehension. The American Journal of Psychology, 124(1), 63-73. https://doi.org/10.5406/amerjpsyc.124.1.0063

Bowlby, J. (1951). Maternal care and mental health. World Health Organization Monograph.

Carney, D. R., Cuddy, A. J. C., & Yap, A. J. (2010). Power Posing: Brief Nonverbal Displays Affect Neuroendocrine Levels and Risk Tolerance. Psychological Science, 21(10), 1363-1368. https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797610383437 (Original work published 2010)

Cline, F. and Fay, J. (2006). Parenting with love and logic - updated and expanded edition. NavPress Publishing.

Cloud, H. & Townsend, J. S. (2017). Boundaries: When to say yes, how to say no to take control of your life. Yates & Yates.

Cuddy, A. J. C., Glick, P., Beninger, A. (2011). The dynamics of warmth and competence judgements, and their outcomes in organizations. Research in Organizational Behavior; 31: 73-98.

Dube, S. R., Anda, R. F., Felitti, V. J., Edwards, V. J., Williamson, D. F. Exposure to Abuse, Neglect, and Household Dysfunction Among Adults Who Witnessed Intimate Partner Violence as Children: Implications for Health and Social Services. Violence and Victims, Vol 17, Issue 1, 2002 Feb, DOI: 10.1891/vivi.17.1.3.33635

Egelend B, Sroufe LA, Erickson M. (1983). The developmental consequence of different patterns of maltreatment. Child Abuse and Neglect;7:459–69.

Ellis, E.E., Yilanli, M., Saadabadi, A. Reactive Attachment Disorder. (Updated 2023 May 1). In: StatPearls (Internet). Treasure Island (FL): StatPearls Publishing; 2025 Jan-.Available from: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK537155/

Erikson, E. H. (1950). Childhood and society. W W Norton & Co. Feldman, P. J.,

Dunkel-Schetter, C., Sandman, C. A., & Wadhwa, P. D. (2000). Maternal social support predicts birth weight and fetal growth in human pregnancy. Psychosomatic Medicine, 62(5), 715-725. 

Fisher, J. L., Harris, M. B. (1973). Effect of note taking and review on recall. Journal of Educational Psychology, 65(3), 321-325.

Felitti, V. J., Anda, R. F., Nordenberg, D., Williamson, D. F., Spitz, A. M., Edwards, V., Koss, M. P., Marks, J. S. (1998). Relationship of Childhood Abuse and Household Dysfunction to Many of the Leading Causes of Death in Adults: The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study. American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 14(4), 245-258.

Freitas Dantas Gomes, E., et al. (2019). Autonomic responses of premature newborns to body position and environmental noise in the neonatal intensive care unit. Revista Brasileira de Terapia Intensiva. 31(3):296-302.

Freud, S., Strachey, J., Freud, A., & Rothgeb, C. L. (1994). The standard edition of the complete psychological works of Sigmund Freud.. Hogarth Press.

Ginsburg, H. P., & Opper, S. (1988). Piaget's theory of intellectual development (3rd ed.). Prentice-Hall, Inc. 

Gladwell, M. (2008). Outliers: The story of success. Little, Brown and Co.

Harandi T. F., Taghinasab M. M., Nayeri T. D. The correlation of social support with mental health: A meta-analysis. Electron Physician. 2017 Sep 25; 9(9):5212-5222. doi: 10.19082/5212. PMID: 29038699; PMCID: PMC5633215.

Honda, Tran, Popplestone, Draper, Yousafzai, Romero, Fisher (December 2023). Parents’ mental health and the social-emotional development of their children aged between 24 and 59 months in low-and middle-income countries: A systematic review and meta-analyses. SSM - Mental Health, Volume 3

Jungmann M, Vencatachellum S, Van Ryckeghem D, Vögele C. Effects of Cold Stimulation on Cardiac-Vagal Activation in Healthy Participants: Randomized Controlled Trial. JMIR Form Res. 2018 Oct 9;2(2):e10257. doi: 10.2196/10257. PMID: 30684416; PMCID: PMC6334714.

Karpman, S.B. (1968). Fairy tales and script drama analysis. Transactional Analysis Bulletin, 7(26), 39-43.

Karpman, S.B. (2014). A Game Free Life. The definitive book on the Drama Triangle and Compassion Triangle by the originator and author. The new transactional analysis of intimacy, openness, and happiness. Drama Triangle Publications.

Lewicki, R. J. & Wiethoff, C. (2000). Trust, Trust Development, and Trust Repair. In Deutsch, M., Coleman, P.T., Marcus, E. C. (Eds.), The handbook of conflict resolution: Theory and practice (p. 86-107). San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass.

Maxwell, J. (2000). Failing forward: turning mistakes into stepping stones for success. HarperCollins Leadership.

McConnell, D., Breitkreuz, R., & Savage, A. (2011). From financial hardship to child difficulties: Main and moderating effects of perceived social support. Child: Care, Health and Development, 37(5), 679-691. 

Morelli, S. A., Lee, I. A., Arnn, M. E., & Zaki, J. (2015). Emotional and instrumental support provision interact to predict well-being. Emotion, 15(4), 484–493. https://doi.org/10.1037/emo0000084

Perry, B. D. (2000). Traumatized children: how childhood trauma influences brain development. Journal of the California Alliance for the Mentally Ill. p. 48–51.

Perry, B. D. (2002). Childhood experience and the expression of genetic potential: what childhood neglect tells us about nature and nurture; Brain and mind; Vol. 3:pp. 79–100.

Perry, B. D., & Szalavitz, M. (2006). The boy who was raised as a dog and other stories from a child psychiatrist's notebook: What traumatized children can teach us about loss, love, and healing. Basic Books/Hachette Book Group.

Purvis, K. B., Cross, D. R., Sunshine, W. L. (2007). The Connected Child. McGraw-Hill.

Ressler, K. J. Amygdala activity, fear, and anxiety: modulation by stress. Biological Psychiatry. 2010 Jun 15;67(12):1117-9. doi: 10.1016/j.biopsych.2010.04.027. PMID: 20525501; PMCID: PMC2882379.

Rousseau, D. M., Sitkin, S. B., Burt, R. S., and Camerer, C. (1998). "Not so Different After All: A Cross-Discipline View of Trust," in Academy of Management Review, 23, 393-404.

Southwick, D. A., Liu, Z. V., Baldwin, C., Quirk, A. L., Ungar, L. H., Tsay, C. J., & Duckworth, A. L. (2023). The trouble with talent: Semantic ambiguity in the workplace. Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes, 174, 104223. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.obhdp.2022.104223.

Soutschek A, Ruff CC, Strombach T, Kalenscher T, Tobler PN. Brain stimulation reveals crucial role of overcoming self-centeredness in self-control. Science Advances. 2016 Oct 19;2(10):e1600992. doi: 10.1126/sciadv.1600992. PMID: 27774513; PMCID: PMC5072183.

Strathearn L, Giannotti M, Mills R, Kisely S, Najman J, Abajobir A. Long-term Cognitive, Psychological, and Health Outcomes Associated With Child Abuse and Neglect. Pediatrics. 2020 Oct;146(4):e20200438. doi: 10.1542/peds.2020-0438. Epub 2020 Sep 17. PMID: 32943535; PMCID: PMC7786831.

Teicher MD. Wounds that time won’t heal: the neurobiology of child abuse. Cerebrum: The Dana Forum on brain science. 2000; 2:50–67.

Thoits, P. A. (1995). Stress, coping, and social support processes: Where are we? What next? Journal of Health and Social Behavior, Special Edition, 53-79. Retrieved from https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/d19b/bcaf99e09ed1a6382d07571f64a1c89e5de8.pdf. 

Thomas, N. L. (2005). When love is not enough: A guide to parenting children with RAD-reactive attachment disorder. Families By Design.

Thomas, N., Thomas, T., Thomas B. (2002). Dandelion on My Pillow, Butcher Knife Underneath: The true story of an amazing family that lived with and loved kids who killed. Families By Design.

Van Der Kolk, B. (2014) The Body Keeps the Score: brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Viking.

Verny, T. R., & Kelly, J. (1981). The secret life of the unborn child. Simon & Schuster. 

Zarei, K., Xu, G., Zimmerman, B., Giannotti, M., and Strathearn, L. Adverse Childhood Experiences Predict Common Neurodevelopmental and Behavioral Health Conditions among U.S. Children. Children 2021, 8, 761.